Have you had it with diet plans that don’t work?
Are you frustrated with your chronic start-fail-stop all-together commitments to healthy eating and regular exercise?
Friend, you’re not alone. I’ve been there. For twenty years I vowed I’d lose five pounds at the start of every year, but instead, I gained five more pounds with every passing year. I’d commit to an exercise plan, but injuries derailed my follow-through just at the moment I was gaining momentum and strength.
The problem wasn’t that the plan didn’t work.
It wasn’t that I couldn’t count calories well enough.
It was that I lacked will-power or follow-through.
The problem was that I was trying to accomplish something with my body without having my mind engaged in the process.
I was busy adopting everyone else’s ideas instead of getting in touch with how my core beliefs were impacting my daily choices and habits.
It’s kind of shocking since the one thing I advocate for the most is getting our minds in gear in order to impact our actions. In my work as a life coach and coach trainer, I help women discover how to uncover why they do what they do by tapping into their core beliefs and core values. Throughout my work at a More to Be, I’ve emphasized the importance of thinking biblically so that we can live transformed.
Somehow, when it came to caring for my body I didn’t hold to the same principles. I focused entirely on changing behavior — a new diet or exercise plan — instead of engaging my mind as well as my heart in the process of caring for my body. Crazy, right? Maybe you find yourself in the same place.
Finding sustainable success in this wellness journey begins with changing our thoughts to line up with truth not feelings.
In my journey, it wasn’t that Whole30 was the secret to my success, rather that Whole30 triggered a new way of thinking about food and my source of comfort. That “ah-ha” became the starting point for a new way of thinking and thereby living, but not overnight.
I had to get down to the root issues motivating my habits, which started with pinpointing my belief patterns.
Our minds have the neurological ability to memorize our thought patterns and reaction. So if we continue to say, “I had a long day. I deserve a glass of wine or bowl of ice cream or both,” we’ll continue to take action the way we always did as soon as the new diet plan becomes old and motivation wanes.
Simply saying to ourselves, “No, don’t do that!” isn’t effective either, because the temptation continues to exist.
The only solution is to choose a new pathway to replace the old one, again and again, until a healthier habit is formed.
A new pathway often requires a mantra, like one I picked up from a family member:
Stop . . . Consider what you’re actually doing.
. . . As you are heading to the fridge after a long day. . .
Think . . . Reflect on what is going through your mind and emotions.
. . . I just need to unwind, reward myself, indulge a bit, it won’t hurt . . .
Choose . . . Proactively make a choice that is beneficial to you.
. . . Well, that thinking is totally illogical. In fact, it will hurt me not help me to indulge in this sugary treat. Instead, I choose to wait five minutes to see if I am still hungry and go for an apple instead.
Go . . . Step in that new direction.
Again and again and again, until your habit changes for good.
Cultivating a new habit is about choosing wellness over whimsy by engaging your mind in the process.
And as you engage your mind, you might find the need to dig deeper to discover where your patterns first emerged.
Up until the 1960s, researchers believed that changes in the brain could only take place during infancy and childhood. By early adulthood, it was believed that the brain’s physical structure was mostly permanent. Modern research has demonstrated that the brain continues to create new neural pathways and alter existing ones in order to adapt to new experiences, learn new information, and create new memories. (source)
We can learn new habits after all! There’s no excuse for staying stuck. So if you’re ready to dive deeper into this process of engaging your mind right along with your body in this journey of wellness, consider these simple options to begin engaging your brain towards a new habit.
Pick one habit changed to focus on for one week. Then add a new habit week after week. In no time, you’ll be living the way you intend to instead of being driven by your emotions.
If you really want to get serious about change, you might want to take a look at a resource I created for my tribe over at More to Be. I think you just might find it is beneficial for you as well!
Holy Whole is a guide to wellness looking at stewardship of our bodies through applying Biblical principles to cultivate a new mindset and new habits.
You might wonder, could this resource help me even if I don’t consider myself a spiritual person?
Well, that’s really up to you! Most certainly you can gain something by considering how your thinking is influencing your living along with benefiting from the interactive worksheets designed to help you pinpoint where you’re at, how you got that, where you want to go, and what is standing in your way in terms of your wellness journey.
If you’re ready to learn a new way of thinking about your body that will change your living for the better, then Holy Whole is a tool for you!
Don’t let doubt or defeating thinking hold you back. Sister, you can start your holy whole journey into wellness today.
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